Question of the Day: What Would You Say To Your Teen If Their Friend Were Gay?

In this day and age there are so many mixed messages being taught regarding homosexuality. Where it comes from, is it a choice, are you born that way, does it stem from some kind of abuse?
I think for those of us who are in our 30’s and above we may have ridden the end tide of the “Keep it in the closet” era. Meaning we all knew who our homosexual relatives were and those who were completely out there. However how many of us can really remember being in High School or even earlier with people who were openly and comfortably gay?
So how as Christians do we help our children to navigate their way through a society that teaches, it is acceptable to be gay. As a matter of fact, is it ok to be gay? A good deal of teens today will tell you that the numbers of homosexual teens in their school is quite high. So what have your conversations with your teens been like? Not only what are you saying to them, but what is their response to you? If your straight teen wanted to be friends or have sleepovers with a gay teen of the same sex how would you react? How should we react from a BIBLICAL point of view? To pose the question, What Would Jesus Do?
I pray that none of us want our teens taunting those who live differently than them. However where do we draw the line if anywhere?
Thoughts, comments and respect greatly appreciated.
Be Blessed


8 responses to “Question of the Day: What Would You Say To Your Teen If Their Friend Were Gay?”

  1. ria chavis Avatar
    ria chavis

    OK…i totally misread…didn’t fully read the article, my answer was to another question, Lol, sorry.

    1. That’s ok, background information is also important and you brought up some relative facts (plus now you owe me the new FH CD LOL).
      It is interesting because I know the teens aren’t thinking about it as deeply as we are. They are thinking this person is nice to me and we get along. So how do you include those feelings in that conversation. So that there is not a generation/spiritual gap that leaves them thinking “Is it really that serious” and turning a deaf ear and blind eye to the scripture?

  2. ria chavis Avatar
    ria chavis

    for years i was of the same school of thought as the first commenter, that ppl are not born gay…….but my thinking is different now. if our hormomnes are out of balance (from birth), men having too much estrogen or women having to much testosterone, and whatever else makes a woman a woman and a man a man, then that could possibly explain it right there, I mean ppl have been born with both sex organs, what do they do, what if they choose the wrong one (meaning the one that does not line up with their hormonal make up)…once sin entered the world anything became possible…i do believe some of the behavior is learned/triggered by rape or molestation for some…BUT I DIGRESS…back to the original question. I would first find out their feelings abt it, do they think it’s wrong/right, are they a christian, etc. Then I would tell them my thinking based on the Word and that nothing is too hard for God and he can deliver from homosexuality, if deliverance is what they seek. There are ministires that equpped in this area, if the child wanted help, I would seek advice/counsel from one of those type ministries.

  3. Thanks for all your comments. However how do you respond when your teen blatantly ask is it wrong for me to be friends with this person. Will God be angry if I am friends with them?

  4. See what kind of heart, soul, and character the friend has…

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    I would tell him that his soul is in danger, he will lose his soul. For the bible in 1cor 6:9-10, says that such people will not inherit the kingdom of God. If he wants also to be in the kingdom of God now and hereafter he should repent of his sin(homosexuality), trust God his forgiveness and salvation then he will enter into the kingdom of God.
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  6. Theresa Darley Avatar
    Theresa Darley

    Don’t give them your or anyone else’s opinion. Just read to them straight out of the Bible what God has to say about homosexuality.
    The Bible consistently tells us that homosexual activity is a sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9). Romans 1:26-27 teaches specifically that homosexuality is a result of denying and disobeying God. When people continue in sin and unbelief, God “gives them over” to even more wicked and depraved sin in order to show them the futility and hopelessness of life apart from God. 1 Corinthians 6:9 proclaims that homosexual “offenders” will not inherit the kingdom of God.
    God does not create a person with homosexual desires. The Bible tells us that people become homosexuals because of sin (Romans 1:24-27) and ultimately because of their own choice. A person may be born with a greater susceptibility to homosexuality, just as some people are born with a tendency to violence and other sins. That does not excuse the person’s choosing to sin by giving in to sinful desires. If a person is born with a greater susceptibility to anger/rage, does that make it right for him to give into those desires? Of course not! The same is true with homosexuality.
    However, the Bible does not describe homosexuality as a “greater” sin than any other. All sin is offensive to God. Homosexuality is just one of the many things listed in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 that will keep a person from the kingdom of God. According to the Bible, God’s forgiveness is just as available to a homosexual as it is to an adulterer, idol worshipper, murderer, thief, etc. God also promises the strength for victory over sin, including homosexuality, to all those who will believe in Jesus Christ for their salvation (1 Corinthians 6:11; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Philippians 4:13).

    1. Thanks for coming by and commenting. Just one question, once you direct them to the scripture do you then let them make the choice on their own or do you as the parent give them the scripture and the decision?

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