Forgiveness, Who Do You Think You Are?

As we get older and have been bumped, bruised and hurt forgiveness can truly become a more difficult thing to do. I watch my children play and listen to their stories from school and it is amazing how easy it is for their young hearts to forgive. Ashamed we walk away from that gift as we get older, usually when we need it most.

In my studies I have heard two preachers say two profound things about forgiveness. One is, “Not forgiving a person is like drinking poison and hoping someone else dies” the other “How dare we go to God the Father to ask for forgiveness lest we are able to forgive one another right here on earth, who do you think you are?”.

Ever ask yourself the questions, How does God continually forgive me? How bad must it hurt Him when I do Him wrong knowing He loves me so? How is it that He is always waiting for my return so that HE can give me what He has in store for me? How great is He that He can wipe my slate clean every time I ask? Why He gave us a Son that died for us, uttering in pain for our forgiveness, by His design?  Brings me to one final question. How can we not forgive one another especially those to whom we are committed in Spirit through marriage or are intented to marry and family?

I understand that sometimes hurt will cause us to feel that a person that we love can not be trusted or forgiven. However we should be very careful in making that assumption and allowing that negativity to take root. Where there is love there is always forgiveness. We just need to learn to deal with the other feelings involved separately, stay prayerful, faithful, hopeful and you will be amazed at the things God will in time will release you from.

Be Blessed,


14For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 6:14-15

The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant

21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”

22Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

23“Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. 25Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26“The servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’27The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28“But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.

29“His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’

30“But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35“This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.”

Matthew 18:21-35


2 responses to “Forgiveness, Who Do You Think You Are?”

  1. What a message? -was just thought provoking. What I have learnt from the extract—

    Forgiveness has an element of condition attached to it: Petition–If we forgive ….then God will also forgive (Matthew 6: 14-15). Implication that
    We should be forgiving to be forgiven… No choice-period. A guide to avoid not to block /delay our blessings as well.
    It requires a lot of courage though.

    Implication:The one that has been wronged is expected to be the first to act i,e. to forgive – need more strength than ever brethren–I mean —from God! Just think especially immediately after taking a decision to forgive –that’s brave !. At times you deny your normal feelings-one convinces her/himself to do what is against his will /what is normal reaction of the society & act objectively—do something-forgive.

    -Not easy sometimes(understandably) but it is possible to forgive. Really this has also a liberating effect(can be therapeutic and portray unselfishness as well)—adds something to one’s character. As you have said—shows how God loves us—how to love others too.

    In the process of forgiving our loved ones/or those who wronged us/or those who do not deserve our love/ or ourselves (for finding us committing the same errors again& again that made us not to forgive ourselves—remember it defeats the say—“I will not forgive myself if I can do A /B/C”) we reach out to them/to ourselves—we embrace—we love —-we act first. Christ-like!

    What can I say?
    Thanks for the message :it’s really encouraging
    God bless.

  2. What a powerful message.
    It is ironic that it is not the person we forgive that’s blessed, but the person who forgave.
    There is power in forgiveness.

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